STAY™
The Small Safety Workbook
For women who know what they want to say…
but lose themselves when the moment gets uncomfortable.
You know it’s a no.
You know you disagree.
You know something doesn’t feel right.
Then the moment arrives.
Your chest tightens.
Your throat closes.
You smile.
You say yes.
Or you say nothing at all.
Later?
You know exactly what you wish you’d said.
You don’t need better words.
You need the capacity to stay with yourself long enough to use them.
STAY™ is a 34-page guided nervous system workbook that helps you begin practicing exactly that.
$37.95 CAD
Digital workbook. Instant access.
You probably already know what you want to say.
That’s the frustrating part.
You know after the conversation.
In the car.
In the shower.
Making coffee.
Lying in bed replaying the whole damn thing.
But when the moment actually happens?
Someone is disappointed.
Their tone changes.
They push back.
They ask why.
And suddenly you’re explaining.
Smoothing it over.
Going quiet.
Saying yes.
Trying to make the discomfort go away.
Sometimes you don’t realize you left yourself until hours later.
That moment is where STAY™ begins.
THIS ISN’T ABOUT FINDING BETTER WORDS.
STAY™ isn't a workbook full of boundary scripts.
It helps you practice what happens before the words disappear.
Catching the tight chest.
The urge to explain.
The automatic yes.
The moment your attention leaves what you know and starts tracking everybody else.
Then you practice something smaller.
Pause.
Take a breath.
Give yourself ten seconds.
Say one honest thing.
Ask for time.
Notice what you need.
Come back to yourself.
You’re not practicing perfect boundaries.
You’re practicing staying.
START WITH THE CATCH.
You don't have to change anything yet.
First, you learn to notice.
When did I leave myself?
What happened in my body?
What was happening around me?
What might have helped me stay?
Even if you catch it afterward, it counts.
Because before you can choose differently, you have to recognize the moment you're actually choosing in.
WHAT’S INSIDE STAY™
THE CATCH™
Notice when you begin leaving yourself.
SMALLER THAN YOU THINK
Make overwhelming moments small enough to work with.
STAY
Practice simple ways of coming back to yourself.
CURIOSITY BEFORE COURAGE
Notice what's happening without immediately judging or forcing yourself.
THE MICRO NO™
Practice tiny boundaries before expecting yourself to hold the enormous ones.
THE RETURN HOME™
Learn what helps you come back and what you want to remember next time.
Plus your own STAY Map™ to gather what actually helps you stay.
YOU’LL START SEEING YOUR OWN PATTERNS.
Maybe you leave yourself fastest when someone is disappointed.
Maybe you explain the second somebody questions you.
Maybe you agree immediately and regret it later.
Maybe you go quiet before you've even realized you're uncomfortable.
STAY™ helps you notice your patterns without turning yourself into another problem to fix.
Because noticing sooner gives you more room to choose.
YOUR FIRST BOUNDARY CAN BE TINY.
It doesn't have to be a confrontation.
It might be:
“I need to think about it.”
“Not right now.”
“Give me a minute.”
“Actually, I’ve changed my mind.”
Or simply noticing the automatic yes before it leaves your mouth.
Your first boundary doesn't need to be impressive.
It needs to be something you can actually stay inside.
MADE FOR YOUR ACTUAL LIFE.
The kitchen.
The car.
Work.
Family.
The bathroom after the conversation.
The text you don't know how to answer.
The request you need time to think about.
STAY™ isn't something you have to complete perfectly.
Write in it.
Come back later.
Repeat a practice.
Spend a week noticing one thing.
This isn't homework. It's practice.
YOU’LL ALSO GET THREE BONUS PRACTICES.
THE 5-MINUTE STAY RESET™
A short practice for the moments you notice yourself shutting down, appeasing, reacting or disappearing.
MY SAFETY LIST™
Build your own collection of small things that help you feel more grounded and present.
BEFORE THE HARD CONVERSATION™
A simple nervous system check-in before the conversations that matter most.
STAY™ MAY BE FOR YOU IF…
You know exactly what you wish you'd said afterward.
You say yes and regret it later.
You over-explain when somebody questions you.
You go quiet during uncomfortable conversations.
You lose track of what you want when somebody else becomes upset.
You replay conversations hours later.
You want to practice boundaries without forcing yourself into huge confrontations.
You don't need another script.
You want to be able to stay with yourself long enough to use your own words.
WHY I MADE STAY™
I know what it's like to understand exactly what happened afterward.
To replay it.
Explain.
Appease.
Go quiet.
And wonder why knowing what I wanted wasn't enough to help me say it when it mattered.
My work now brings together nervous system education, somatic practice, nature connection and voice.
I’m a certified forest therapy practitioner, somatic educator, trauma-informed facilitator and published author.
I’m not a therapist or mental health professional, and STAY™ isn't therapy.
It's practical nervous system work for the moments you want to stop leaving yourself.
- Irêné
YOU DON’T NEED TO BECOME SOMEONE NEW.
You don't need a tougher personality.
You don't need the perfect words.
You don't need to stop caring what other people feel.
Start smaller.
Notice sooner.
Pause.
Come back.
Stay with yourself for one more moment.
That's where boundaries begin.
